Let me kindly introduce myself, I am a talker; well I actually talk a lot lol. But am learning to not always like the sound of my own voice; there are some things that you just know about yourself, they are things that are not your strong points but you are developing in these areas; we all have weaknesses but thank God we can acknowledge them and grow.
When I think about single parent life, I have so much compassion for myself lol and others because the challenges are sometimes present daily. Challenges of all kinds are something that we all must go through but I am here and committed to talking to the “Single Parent”! The one income into the household parent, the working 2 or more jobs to make ends meet parent, the parent that has a lack of support or understanding from the absent parent, the parent that feels crap because they have not had a lot of time or money to take care of themselves, the one that is cussed out even while being left alone to raise the children; I am talking to you! You have so much value even when it seems so hard and you can’t stop crying because you feel weighed down by it all; this is a season that we are all going through but we can do it well together.
I was first left to raise my daughter at the age of 21, I was on my own for 4 years before I met my Son’s Father to which we were married and divorced within 6 years and I have been on my own for 10 years (with foolishness in between lol); so I have spent a total of 14 years as a single parent. I have single-parented for most of my children’s lives; I understand that some parents have been doing this ever since they have given birth to their first child. Every situation is unique but the emotional strains can be the same.
I personally would love to have raised my children in a two parent home but this is not my situation so I seek to do my best with what we have. I would 100 percent suggest marriage before children because at least you have some guarantee of commitment; I know some might say “He/she still might leave or you don’t need a piece of paper”! But it’s saying so much if a man or a woman is willing to commit in this way; especially if a men is vowing to commit to you for the rest of his life here on earth. Even before a child; there needs to be clear lines that a man is willing to be in a committed relationship with you. That said, this was not my story; I got married after my Son was born and the lessons were learnt without going into too much detail at this time is; make sure you have healed and know yourself first before you subject another person to life partnership.
My journey of purpose started when I meet God with a broken marriage, fearful and with deep wounds from my past. I had myself to deal with but I also had to be strong for my children when I felt so helpless and inadequate. I believed that I was not smart enough to do anything and I felt completely small because every area of my life seemed to be falling apart, but do you want to know what happened………..I truly embarked on a journey of knowing God more, I feel loved by the creator and old feelings of lack disappear as I walk with Christ daily. What I will tell you though is; things still get hard and I will talk about them more in future but I know now that I don’t have to control everything: I am learning to TRUST that God has a purpose and design for me.
DISCLAIMER: I am a Single Parent Mother, so I will mainly be talking about my own experiences so I can not identify or speak from other points of reference; however if there are things that you would like to discuss; by all means let’s talk! Also if I make any spelling or grammatical errors, we will just roll with it as it’s a blog and I am human. If something does not make sense, read it again and again; imagine that you understood everything I just said.
I have to keep it real so watch this space!
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